Forgiveness Means You Have to Trust Them

“Just because you have forgiven someone doesn’t mean you have to trust them. If the offender has a track record of wronging others and has a blatant disregard for others’ welfare, you would be foolish to believe they won’t do it to you too.”

Biblical forgiveness: Ephesians 4:15 says, “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”

Speak the truth in love to others.  Tell others plainly that they have wronged you and the way in which they have done so.  Don’t allow them to trick you into believing the offense is your fault. Do this in the hopes they will become more mature in the faith.

Myth 4:  Forgiveness Means You Are a Doormat

Enabling is not the same as forgiveness. To forgive does not mean you allow someone to continue to hurt you over and over. Allowing this lessens your respect for yourself and degrades one of God’s prized creations-you!

Biblical Forgiveness: Establish and maintain clear boundaries between yourself and others. When someone offends you, be quick to forgive and slow anger.

“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has grievance against someone.  Forgive as the Lord forgave you. “
Colossians 3:13;

If the offense continues, ask yourself if this person puts you or themselves first. If they put themselves first, be honest about the state of the relationship. If the offender refuses to repent, cut ties.